Thursday, April 23, 2009

Exhibit Your Winning Personality

Personal development blogger Alex Shalman explains that those who have winning personalities are loved and respected. These individuals are not thinking of themselves. Instead, they have everyone's best interests at heart. So how, then, do you achieve a personality that everyone loves? Be kind and compassionate. Believe in yourself. Exhibit integrity and optimism. Have an open mind. Do not speak negatively of others. Take responsibility for your actions. Help others when you can. Be persistent, and don't give up. With a winning personality, you attract more friends and can enrich the lives of anyone who comes into contact with you.

A winning personality is someone that is trusted, loved, and respected. To you, it may mean someone who is rich, charismatic, or successful. We won’t dwell on semantics during this post, and just stick to my initial definition. In order to have a winning personality, it is of utmost importance to have everyone’s best interest in mind.


1. Exhibit integrity

One is said to have integrity to the extent that everything he does and believes is based on the same core set of values. While those values may change, it is their consistency with each other and with the person’s actions that determine his integrity.

2. Do not speak badly of others
When you confide in a friend and speak badly of others, what’s to say that you won’t speak badly about the friend to someone else? When you establish yourself as someone that does not speak badly, you will find that more people confide in you.

3. Stay optimistic

I don’t mean blindly optimistic where you think it’ll rain money tomorrow. I’m talking about putting aside what’s going wrong in order to focus on what’s important and stay on course.

4. Help others when you can
They say you don’t know how much money you have until you give it away. I think the same goes for knowledge and all of our abilities in general. I think part of our purpose in developing ourselves, our skills and talents is to be able to share it.

5. High ambitions
This is one of the most contagious qualities. The reason is that your dreams or goals not only bring you hope, but hope to the people around you. You enroll (or recruit) them into this dream, and it inspires and motivates them to dream goals of their own.

6. Kind and compassionate

One of the most important qualities a person can possess. The ability to feel the suffering of others, and to care and possibly do something about it. If you think it sucks to feel someone else’s pain in addition to your own, you can also consider the feeling of unlimited love and joy that others experience as well.

7. Believe in and respect yourself

If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t honestly expect others to do it. When you make decisions, with love and respect of yourself in mind, you’ll be pleased to see yourself taking action on a higher level.

8. Persist until you succeed
Being ambitious is not enough. In The Hidden Secret in Think and Grow Rich, Brian Kim talks about persistence as the key to succeeding. It’s when you fall down, realize that your set back is a lesson learned, and get up to persevere.

9. Open mindedness
If you aren’t open minded, than your set in your ways, doomed to never discover a newer and better way. Than again, you might already know everything you need to do to be happy (you are special!)

10. Take responsibility
Blaming others doesn’t really solve problems. A person with a winning personality will take responsibility for what happened and take measures to prevent the situation from repeating itself.

When you constantly exhibit the above qualities, you will be forging a name for yourself as a person with a winning personality. A winning personality will not only enrich your own life, but also open many doors for you as you interact with others. Eventually things catch up to you. If you’re known as a crook than the people around you will figure you out and distrust you.If you’re a person of integrity, than people around you will trust and confide in you.


My Wish said...

“It may take courage to embrace the possibilities of your own potential, but once you've flown past the summit of your fears, nothing will seem impossible. ”

See and enjoy this inspirational video:

Dr. Honey said...

Thank you My Wish for the video!